My Story- From Invisible to Empowered

For over thirty years, I lived trying to fit into boxes that were never meant for me. I followed the traditional script—marriage, motherhood, putting everyone else first while completely disconnected from my own desires. I was chronically anxious, reactive, and settling for relationships that drained me because I believed I should be grateful anyone would “put up with me”.

Everything shifted when I had my daughter. Becoming a mother while feeling disconnected from my husband made it clear we had lost each other completely. Looking at my daughter, I realized I couldn’t model what I didn’t know myself—how to live authentically.

Leaving my marriage as a blind woman with an infant felt insurmountable, but I knew I had to rebuild with more awareness. Navigating single motherhood while learning to trust my own judgment was its own profound transition. I thought the hardest part was behind me.

I was wrong.

At 36, while rebuilding as a single mother, my body began signaling another major shift. Severe anxiety from nowhere. Night sweats. Hot flashes. Brain fog so thick I questioned my competence. Mood swings disconnected from my life. Seemingly incurable insomnia.

For years, medical providers dismissed me. I was “too young” for perimenopause. I was told it was stress, that I needed more exercise, maybe antidepressants. I began questioning my reality.

The truth is, if men went through perimenopause, we’d have comprehensive research and immediate treatment. Instead, women suffer in silence, dismissed by a medical system that ignores our experiences.

When I finally found providers who took me seriously, I had to navigate a landscape full of aggressive marketing promising that the “right” products would save me from the “horrors” of aging. Everyone seemed to have the answer for what my body needed. But here’s what I learned: you get to choose what feels right for your body and your life. Whether that’s hormone therapy, lifestyle changes, alternative approaches, or a combination- no provider, product, or cultural message gets to make that choice for you.

For me, hormone replacement therapy was part of my healing, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right path for everyone. What matters is that you have access to accurate information and supportive providers who respect your autonomy. Through my training in integrative health coaching and the Somatica method, I learned true healing addresses both physical and emotional aspects of transitions. The Somatica approach taught me that transformation happens through real relationship, with myself and others. Rather than just talking about changes, I learned to experience them in my body and practice new ways of being in authentic connection. Whether it’s divorce, grief, perimenopause, or midlife questioning, these aren’t just challenges to survive. They’re opportunities when life forces us to reckon with decades of putting ourselves last.

Today, I live with intentionality I never knew possible. Do I still get triggered? Absolutely. Do I still have challenging symptoms? Sometimes. The difference is I’m aware of what’s happening in my body, I have tools to support myself, and I course correct quickly.

Now I guide women through reconnecting to who they are underneath conditioning, especially during major life transitions. In our work together, you don’t just learn concepts about capacity, boundaries, exploring and expressing needs and desires. You practice them in real-time within our relationship. This embodied approach helps you develop the ability to trust your inner wisdom and show up authentically in all your relationships.

The women drawn to this work aren’t broken; we’re strong women who learned to prioritize others while disconnecting from our own inner wisdom. We just need support turning that care toward ourselves through genuine connection and embodied practice.

When women reconnect with their authentic power and trust their inner wisdom, both emotional intuition and body signals, everything changes. Their relationships become genuine, they show up differently, and they model empowerment for the next generation.

If you’re navigating any major life transition whether perimenopause, relationship changes, or the general questioning that can hit in midlife; empowerment is possible. Your experiences matter, your wisdom is valid, and you deserve support that honors both your physical and emotional needs while respecting your right to choose your own path.